Here are 70 ideas and examples for BDSM slave training, each aimed at deepening the dynamic between a Dominant and a submissive while fostering trust, discipline, and enjoyment.
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Daily Rituals and Commands
- Morning Ritual: Have your slave wake you up with a cup of coffee or tea, served on their knees.
- Daily Check-In: Require your slave to send a morning message detailing how they plan to serve you that day.
- Gratitude Journal: Make them keep a journal where they note how they’ve served you and what they’re grateful for each day.
- Task Assignment: Give your slave one task every day, whether it’s household chores or personal improvement.
- Posture Training: Instruct your slave to maintain a specific posture (e.g., straight back, chin up) whenever they are in your presence.
- Kneeling Ritual: Have your slave kneel at your feet for a certain amount of time each evening, as a gesture of submission.
- Clothing Control: Choose their outfit each day, or assign a dress code for specific events.
- Body Worship: Instruct your slave to kiss or worship a part of your body at certain times, such as your feet or hands.
- Grooming Standards: Set grooming rules (e.g., always shaved, nails trimmed) and check regularly for compliance.
- Mantra Repetition: Have your slave recite a mantra like, “My place is to serve,” every morning and evening.
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Physical Activities and Training
- Pet Play: Use a leash and collar, and instruct them to crawl to you or around the house.
- Chastity Control: Place them in chastity for a set time and reward them with orgasm control based on good behavior.
- Orgasm Denial: Deny orgasms as a form of discipline, rewarding them with release when they’ve earned it.
- Forced Orgasm: Use toys like a wand to give your slave multiple orgasms, pushing their limits and reinforcing your control.
- Silent Obedience: Use ticklers or light touches, and instruct them to remain silent—punishing them if they make noise.
- Spanking: Incorporate spanking as a reward or punishment, with specific rules for how and when it happens.
- Corner Time: Have your slave spend time in the corner, focusing on their submission.
- Public Control: Instruct your slave to wear a subtle symbol of their submission (such as a collar under clothing) in public.
- Restraints: Train your slave with restraints, such as cuffs or rope, practicing patience and surrender.
- Daily Exercise: Assign them physical tasks like exercising to stay in shape for you.
Emotional Bonding and Mental Conditioning
- Mindful Obedience: Have your slave meditate on their role in the relationship for a few minutes every day.
- Verbal Affirmation: Require your slave to affirm their submission with verbal praise, like saying “Thank you, Master” after being corrected.
- Eye Contact Rules: Forbid eye contact unless explicitly granted.
- Speech Control: Teach them to only speak when spoken to, or require them to ask permission before speaking.
- Punishment Journal: Have them document their punishments and reflect on how they will avoid repeating mistakes.
- Writing Assignments: Assign essays or written lines to reinforce lessons, such as “I serve with grace and humility” 50 times.
- Positive Reinforcement: Praise your slave often when they meet expectations, reinforcing their behavior.
- Deprivation Play: Take away privileges (e.g., TV, phone) as a form of mental conditioning.
- Slave Affirmation: Have them record daily affirmations about their role and responsibilities.
- Confession Time: Make your slave confess anything they feel they did wrong during the day, encouraging honesty and accountability.
Rewards and Punishments
- Reward with Playtime: Allow your slave to indulge in a sexual fantasy they have earned through good behavior.
- Gift Reward: Reward them with a small gift, such as a new collar or piece of lingerie, when they’ve been obedient.
- Meal Punishment: Forbid them from eating with utensils or make them eat from a bowl as a form of discipline.
- Humiliation Punishment: Incorporate light humiliation when they fail to follow rules, such as making them apologize while kneeling.
- Praise for Submission: Offer verbal praise as a reward when they execute tasks well, reinforcing their behavior.
- Time Out: Use isolation as a punishment, such as making them sit alone without contact.
- Bondage as Discipline: Use extended bondage sessions as punishment for serious offenses.
- Service Reward: Allow them to serve you directly (e.g., massage, personal service) as a reward.
- Orgasm as Reward: Permit an orgasm only after they’ve completed a difficult task or shown exemplary obedience.
- Punishment via Writing: Assign them to write an apology letter or essay on how they can improve.
Sexual Control and Play
- Nipple or Clit Clamps: Use clamps during meals or chores to reinforce submission.
- Tail Butt Plug: Incorporate pet play with a tail butt plug, increasing the level of playful submission.
- Dress in Sexy Lingerie: Have your slave dress in lingerie for you, even if there’s no sexual interaction afterward.
- Oral Servitude: Instruct them to orally serve you as a form of reward or punishment.
- Masturbation Control: Allow them to masturbate only under your supervision and direction.
- Spreader Bars: Use a spreader bar to expose them for sexual use, reinforcing physical submission.
- Sexual Denial: Deny sexual interaction for a set time, increasing their anticipation and obedience.
- Erotic Writing Assignment: Have them write erotic stories based on your dynamic or a sexual fantasy.
- Daily Sexting Task: Instruct your slave to send you a sext or erotic image at a specified time each day.
- Orgasm Teasing: Edge them close to orgasm but deny it as a way to test their patience.
Service and Domestic Tasks
- Cooking in a Collar: Have your slave cook and serve you a meal while wearing nothing but a collar.
- Household Chores: Assign domestic tasks such as cleaning, folding clothes, or organizing your space.
- Hand Feeding: Allow them to serve you a meal and feed you by hand as a sign of devotion.
- Meal Preparation: Have them plan and prepare all meals according to your dietary preferences.
- Shoe Polishing: Instruct them to polish and clean your shoes every week.
- Run Errands: Assign them simple errands like picking up groceries or getting your coffee.
- Slave as Butler/Waitress: Create a night where your slave serves you in a formal butler or waitress capacity.
- Foot Worship After a Long Day: Have your slave give you a foot rub after you return from work or a long day.
- Housework in Lingerie: Assign housework to your slave while dressed in lingerie or an apron only.
- Draw a Bath: Instruct your slave to prepare a bath for you at the end of the day.
Advanced Training Techniques
- Submissive Positions: Train your slave in submissive positions, such as kneeling, head down, or lying prostrate.
- Daily Affirmation Rituals: Have them recite affirmations like “I serve willingly and obediently” each morning.
- Name Rituals: Make them address you by your title (e.g., “Master”) consistently, both in private and in public settings.
- Memory Training: Teach them to memorize specific phrases or mantras that you can recall at any time.
- Respectful Silence: Train them to remain silent unless given permission to speak.
- Obedience Diary: Require them to keep a daily diary of their obedience, writing what they did to serve you each day.
- Slavery Contract: Draft and agree upon a slave contract that outlines rules, rewards, punishments, and goals for your relationship.
- Pain Tolerance Training: Use light pain such as flogging or spanking to test their tolerance and obedience.
- Ritualized Punishment: Establish set rituals for punishment, such as them kneeling before you and asking for correction.
- Meditation on Submission: Have your slave meditate on their submission for 10 minutes daily, reflecting on their role in the dynamic.
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