I’ll admit, the first time I tried dirty talk, it felt a little awkward. But once I realized how it could enhance the experience, I embraced it. And guess what? It worked!
If you want to encourage your partner to take charge in the bedroom, I’ve got 50 dirty talk phrases that can help. These phrases are designed to build anticipation, spark desire, and create that perfect balance of dominance and submission. Plus, I’ll share some tips on how to use them, so you feel confident trying this yourself.
Here are 50 phrases, divided into categories that make it easy to introduce in your relationship.
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Phrases that Encourage Assertiveness
These phrases invite your partner to take control and be more assertive without overwhelming them. They’re perfect for setting the tone and letting your partner know you want them to lead.
- “I love it when you pin me down so I can’t move.”
- “Pull my hair, hard!”
- “I want you to take me however you want.”
- “Make me your plaything tonight.”
- “You can have me any way you want.”
- “Use me for your pleasure.”
- “Show me how strong you are.”
- “You’re in control now.”
- “I love it when you get rough with me.”
- “Take what’s yours.”
Phrases that Highlight Your Submission
Letting your partner know you’re ready to submit can be incredibly hot and emotionally satisfying. These phrases help you express that desire.
- “I want to be your good girl.”
- “Can you tie me to the bed? I want to feel your power.”
- “I need to feel your weight on top of me.”
- “I want to get down on my knees and serve you.”
- “You own my body. Use me however you please.”
- “Is that the best you’ve got? I want you to really take me.”
- “I love it when you come inside me. It makes me feel like I’m yours.”
- “Dominate me. I need you.”
- “Do whatever you want to me. I’m yours.”
- “I’ve been a bad girl today. I need you to spank the naughty out of me.”
Phrases for Playful Teasing
Sometimes, a little teasing throughout the day can build anticipation for what’s to come later. These phrases work great as texts, too!
- “I’ve been thinking about you all day. Can’t wait for you to take me tonight.”
- “You wouldn’t believe the things I want you to do to me.”
- “My body is aching for you.”
- “I want to be at your mercy.”
- “I’m all yours tonight.”
- “I’m waiting for you to tell me what to do.”
- “I need you inside me right now.”
- “Do you want me to be your little slut tonight?”
- “I’ve been such a naughty girl.”
- “I’m counting the minutes until you’re in charge.”
Phrases that Emphasize Ownership
This category reinforces the sense of your partner “owning” the experience and you submitting to their dominance.
- “You own my body tonight.”
- “I love being your little slut.”
- “I’m just your plaything tonight.”
- “Take me like I’m yours.”
- “I want to be your little whore.”
- “You can have me any way you want.”
- “My body is yours to control.”
- “I’m just here to please you.”
- “Make me beg for it.”
- “You have complete control over me tonight.”
Phrases to Build Trust and Care
Even in the heat of the moment, it’s important to make sure that both partners feel cared for and safe. These phrases can deepen that bond.
- “You make me feel safe.”
- “I love how strong you are, but you still take care of me.”
- “You’re the only one who knows how to handle me.”
- “I trust you completely.”
- “I love how you protect me, even when you’re in charge.”
- “I feel so safe when you’re in control.”
- “You’re the only one I trust to do this.”
- “I feel so connected to you when you take charge.”
- “You’re in control, and I love it.”
- “I love how much you care for me, even when you’re rough.”
How to Use Dirty Talk Effectively
If you’re new to dirty talk, it can feel a bit nerve-wracking at first. I totally get it—when I first tried it, I wasn’t sure if I was doing it right or if it would be well-received. But with a little practice and the right timing, it became a way to really enhance our connection.
Here’s what I found helpful:
Timing is Key: Start slow. You don’t have to go from zero to explicit right away. Introduce one or two phrases, either during sex or as a playful text during the day.
Read Their Response: Pay attention to your partner’s reaction. Are they responding positively? Does their body language show they’re into it? These cues can help you gauge if you should keep going or dial it back.
Make It Your Own: If a phrase feels too intense or doesn’t quite fit your relationship dynamic, tweak it! You don’t have to use any of these word-for-word. Adjust them so they feel natural to you and your partner.
Building Anticipation with Dirty Texts
One of my favorite ways to get the anticipation going is by sending texts throughout the day. You’d be amazed how a simple message like, “I can’t stop thinking about what you’re going to do to me later,” can set the mood for the whole evening. Here are a few more text-friendly phrases:
- “I can’t wait for you to have your way with me tonight.”
- “I’ve been thinking about you all day.”
- “Are you going to make me beg for it later?”
- “I’m ready to be dominated as soon as you walk through the door.”
Communicating and Setting Boundaries in a Dom/Sub Dynamic
Dirty talk can be powerful, but it’s essential to always check in with your partner. Before you try something new, have an open conversation about what you both enjoy and where your boundaries are. In my experience, this is what makes the dynamic feel safe and fun for both of us.
Aftercare is also important, especially in any BDSM or Dom/sub play. Taking a moment to reconnect after an intense session, whether it’s through cuddling or talking about how it felt, helps build trust and ensures that both of you feel emotionally supported.
Conclusion
Dirty talk can transform your relationship and deepen your connection, especially when you use it to explore Dom/sub dynamics. The 50 phrases above are just a starting point—feel free to make them your own and see how they enhance your bedroom play. And remember, communication and trust are always the foundation of any power dynamic. So, don’t be afraid to share your desires and encourage your partner to embrace their dominant side.
Ready to give these phrases a try? Let me know how it goes!
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